Hardcover Available February 2026

Good Daughtering

The Work You’ve Always Done, the Credit You’ve Never Gotten, and How to Finally Feel Like Enough

Good Daughtering will:

Highlight the invisible labor of adult daughters.
Reveal the mental load of navigating family dynamics.
Provide sharp insights, relatable stories, and actionable tools.
Help daughters navigate conflict with confidence to redefine their roles.

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Good Daughter

Critical Praise for Good Daughtering

“Insightful guidance to help women keep balance in their lives and flourish.”

– Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play

Anyone facing these challenges will be encouraged by this thoughtful book.

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Who holds families together as parents age? It tends to be adult daughters doing this unpaid, invisible work. Alford draws on years of research and interviews to explore these generational dynamics and offer insightful guidance to help women keep balance in their lives and flourish.

Eve Rodsky

New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play

Good Daughtering wakes women up from the automatic habits that have historically depleted them. I love how it teaches women to create space for their needs and make intentional choices that will significantly improve their lives!

Chelsey Goodan

Author of Underestimated: The Wisdom and Power of Teenage Girls

Good Daughtering is the reckoning every daughter has been waiting for. With a perfect combination of research and compassion, Dr. Alford brings forward the green light every woman has been waiting for: to reflect, to reframe, and to rebirth the role we have played our whole lives— to go far beyond being just the daughter that was good for our family into embodying a daughter that can also bring goodness to ourselves.

Sara Hirsh Bordo

Author of Autoimmunity and the Good Girls

Dr. Allison Alford labels a concept women have been practicing without naming it: daughtering. Just as mothering involves a prescribed set of behaviors in early life, daughtering addresses the relationships and behaviors adult women engage with in their roles as daughters. This book touches on the positives and the negatives, the strengths and the challenges of this important role that endures throughout life.

Dr. Karen Fingerman

Wilson Regents Professor, Department of Human Development and Family Sciences, Director of the Texas Aging and Longevity Center at The University of Texas at Austin, and author of Mothers and Their Adult Daughters: Mixed Emotions, Enduring Bonds

A thoughtful reflection and actionable guide, Good Daughtering is a fresh, empowering look at one of life’s most enduring relationships

Elizabeth Lotardo

Author of Leading Yourself

It’s time to talk about the emotional labor of being a good DaughTer

Good Daughtering: A transformative look at the hidden work of all adult daughters who share the invisible load, from the eldest to the youngest, offering a fresh perspective on care, emotional resilience, and the power daughters have to shape healthier, more fulfilling family connections. For readers of both Susan Cain’s Quiet and Eve Rodsky’s Fair Play.

Daughters grow up believing their role in the family is simple: love your parents, help out when you can, and carry on the traditions that bind families together. But adulthood reveals a more complicated reality—one where women take on the invisible labor of emotional support, crisis management, and unspoken expectations that leave them feeling stretched thin and unseen.

Good Daughtering

Critical Praise for Good Daughtering

It’s time to talk about the emotional labor of being a good DaughTer

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